I believe a strong marriage relationship is what you desire to have with your husband, which , of course is every wife’s desire. But as much as we desire, it takes determination and commitment to build it. Generally speaking, the work of building is usually associated with men, but the scripture says “The wise woman builds her house”. (Prov.14:1). In this case ‘house’ here does not refer to a physical building, but a ‘home’, a conducive environment where a couple coexist happily. While your husband may build the structure, you are the one who builds the relationship.
Your marriage needs a solid foundation
In a building, the foundation is very important; a weak or strong foundation would tell when there is a storm. In like manner, a marriage relationship also depends on which foundation it is standing. A marriage relationship that exists without a solid foundation cannot stand the test of time. As a wife, for you to have a strong marriage relationship with your husband, you need a solid foundation. The major building material for that foundation is your relationship with Jesus, how firmly you rely on him. Other materials include knowledge of the scripture and prayers.
The building blocks
Now with your foundation solidly established, you need faith, submission, patience, gentleness, love, perseverance as blocks for the building.
In building your home, you need to be confident that your marriage relationship would be successful irrespective of challenges. You must be willing to respect and accept the leadership of your husband as the scripture instructs. Patience is highly required to bear with his failures. In like manner, you need to be gentle, not being harsh on him when he fails to meet your expectation. The love that attracted you to marry him must never fade away irrespective of the situation. By this I mean love him deliberately not conditionally. The result will not happen overnight, it is a gradual process, therefore, never get tired; persevere, until your marriage becomes a model.
But you know that relying on human wisdom and strength would take you nowhere. If you try to make effort on your own, you would get weary and crash. Draw your strength from Christ through his word and prayers. Joining a Christian fellowship that teaches the truth of God’s word will also help you.
As you get carried away doing that with a sincere heart, your husband is observing, and God is also working in his heart. Any little sacrifice you make, God calls the attention of your husband to it, and he appreciates it. Bit by bit, he gets attracted to you and wouldn’t like to offend you. Before you know it, you have a brand new husband. Most of the things you were waiting for him to change would be changed without you noticing it.
Life is all about peace and joy; any other achievement in life without these two makes life meaningless. How would it look like when your husband praises you for a job well done? Above all, God would be glorified in your marriage, and He would bless you in all aspects of life. Some of the blessings include obedient children, good health, long life, financial stability, and favor with Him and men.
Don’t you think it worths the sacrifice? Surely, it does, yes, it truly does.