A man asked my husband, ‘why do you Pastors bother people with marriage seminars; is marriage life taught’? As for him, marriage living depends on how a man wants to run the affairs of his family; Pastors should not interfere. To him, only the husband has the say, whatever he decides should be done in the family, stands. He happened to be one of the old members of the Church. When it comes to Church activities, he is dedicated; yet his perception of marriage is not centered on Biblical standards. From afar, one thinks he should be a loving and caring husband; unfortunately, coming closer to the couple, the relationship looks like a master-servant relationship.
What would you do, if you were the wife of this man; as a Christian woman determined to make your marriage work? That is a difficult question, isn’t it? You would agree with me that it is not easy for a woman to be in such kind of a relationship, and serve God with joy. But with God, everything is possible if we fall back to Him.
Persist in your prayers
Jesus instructed us to always pray without giving up. As was his culture, he gave a parable about a widow to demonstrate this. He said, a widow approached one wicked judge to grant her judgment against her adversary, but the judge kept putting her off. She kept going to the judge without relenting, and then the judge decided to grant her request lest she wear him down. Jesus said, “
Don’t grow weary, keep praying; God will surely answer you.
Pray according to God’s Will
Perhaps you are filled with despair, and your feelings toward your husband have grown cold such that you resent him. When you kneel down to pray, your mind depicts his attitudes toward you, and you feel angry? Yes, it hurts; but for God to answer your prayer you need to free your mind by forgiving him and allow God to have his way. Ask God for the grace, and he will give you. The scripture says,
Have faith in God
As you pray, if God seems to be delaying never lose confidence in him; take him by his word. He is a faithful God who does not fail his promise. He is not a man that He should lie.(Num.23:19) But God depends on your faith in him to act in your situation. The Bible says it is impossible to please him without faith. Whoever comes to him must believe that he exists and that he graciously rewards those who seek him diligently.(Heb.11:6). So, don’t depend on how you feel; free your mind, and surrender everything to God.Surely,He will act at the appointed time, and you would see his intervention in your marriage.
Keep praying and trusting; God’s timing is different from our own timing. Don’t get weary and lose heart. God’s ways are different from our ways, be patient, and wait for his own timing. He wants you to learn patience; so don’t get tired and lose up. The letter of James encourages us to be patient as the farmer, who sows his seeds and wait patiently for them to germinate and grow until they produce fruits. (James 5: 7-8) My people have an adage that says “a patient man boils a stone and drinks its soup”. We all know that it is impossible for a stone to be cooked, but it demonstrates the extent of patience that is required of us before receiving what we are hoping for.
Our success depends on persistent prayers
As a matter of fact, for you to be successful in life generally, prayer must become part of your lifestyle.If the Lord Jesus had to pray to succeed in his ministry here on earth, how much more do we ought to pray? Our wisdom will fail us,as well as our strength, only Jesus has the solution to all our problems. We have a duty to pray for ourselves, our husbands, and our children. It surprises me when some women drag with their husbands when it comes to prayer. I don’t mean the usual family prayer, but you need to create a special time to pray for the success of your marriage. As for me, it has become part of me; I pray daily for my husband and children, mentioning their names one by one.
Dear reader, make prayer a serious business, and you would see God’s blessing in your marriage.